Saturday, December 19, 2009

Last night was a nightmare.  Not only for me but for mom.  I called the Alzheimer's society and they didn't really have anything very helpful.  Yeah, she kept wanting to go home.  I told her she was home and she agreed but then wanted to go home again.  It was like this for 3 hours.  She was so confused and upset that it was horrible for both of us.  So I called the society and they said to go along with the delusion.  However, if I did that, she would have left the house looking for her house.  So, a bad night all around.  I called Tillie and asked her if she would ask at the home what they do about these things at night.  She is going to look into it for me.  I am grateful for support.  Any one has suggestions, please let me know!

Other than that, things are alright here.  It was book club today!!!!  How fun.  We all loved the book that Maggie picked, "the Christmas Sweater," by Glenn Beck.  It was such a good book.  We are reading "The Other Boleyn Sister" for next month.  I loved that book so much.  The movie was good too.  Katie is going to get it out of the library when she goes to work next and Aggie, I think, may have it.  The other Katie is going to go and buy it, so is Maggie.  I love book club.  It is so much fun.  I was glad both Katie and Katie were able to join us.  Both of them had to work last time.  

I am ready for Christmas except for wrapping and the tree.  I am going to put the tree up tomorrow and wrap the presents too.  Mom and I are going to make candy tomorrow to for Christmas presents for Andrew and Tillie.  Andrew decided after all to go Tillie's for Christmas.  We haven't seen him in about 3 years since he moved to London, Ontario.  It will be nice to see him again.  We will be alone with him for about 3 hours Christmas Day while Tillie goes to see her husband in the home.

I hope you are having a good Christmas season and enjoying all the joys it brings!  Merry Christmas!


  1. Heather, just do what makes you feel good as far as decorating...what makes YOU feel happy. If thats just the tree, so be it. If our kids were not coming for Christmas I would probably have opted to just do the tree, or my little tree..
    I dont think I have visited your blog you have too...we need to chat, girl. My mother in law had Alzheimer's, she passed away in 2006 after we think about 7 or 8 years of it. Before we had to put her in the assisted living, and in the early days after she left her home, we learned to just agree with was upsetting to her and us to try to explain. Oh my she took such wonderful trips, her mind..another thing when she is at home and wants to go home. Mine always thought there were 'kids' in the house and she would set the table and cook for 'them' we finally figured out she was thinking it was her kids when they were little. Hang in there...stop by and visit again..hugs

  2. Mom has had it for about 6 or so years now. I usually just agree with her on most things and let her wander upstairs between the bathroom and bed at nighttime. I called the doctor today, she is sending a prescription to the pharmacy with for a sedative if this happens again. my email is: I look forward to speaking with you again! have a good day!

  3. Heather, is she eventually going to have to go into a home? its so hard, I remember how scary it was..we were not able to have my mother in law come live with us, it would have killed us all, I still had adult kids at home, four dogs, and we were full the assisted living was the answer for us..we were lucky she had the resource to pay for it, and we sent her to one near his sister in Utah, it was so much less money per month than anything in California..
    Hang in there..

  4. yes, she will probably have to go into a home. I can help her now because she can still do lots of stuff by herself. I need more help than she does. I figure I have at least a year before I need to put her in a home. Where I will live at that time I don't know because it takes both of our incomes to pay the bills.

    Try to have a Merry Christmas! We will!