It seems like a lifetime ago now.
I missed the first day of Kindergarten. We were driving home from vacation. It was a two day drive from Florida. My older brother was beginning 3rd grade and my younger brother was starting preschool, which was at our church. He had finished Nursery School the year before. That was how Kathy and I met. At church and Nursery School. We were three.
Mom and Andrew went to school with me. Richard walked to school with his friends. When we found my classroom and mom was saying goodbye, I was super confused and starting to melt down. No one had explained that I had to stay at kindergarten all morning! I thought we got our work and went home to do it. I was really wrong. As I was beginning to meltdown, Mom spotted Kathy! Mom pointed out Kathy and the chair next to Kathy was empty. Meltdown avoided completely. I just said, bye mom and walked to see Kathy. She seemed relieved to see me too. Kathy and I were together all the time. We were partners when we needed go have a partner. We rarely fought. I can only remember 2 big fights in our whole friendship up to date. One was in 3rd grade and the other was in 6th grade. That was really about it. Oooh, I did get mad one day in our band class during our senior year and one day in our theory class in our senior year.
Kathy was very shy. She rarely spoke in school. I, on the other hand, was what my mom called a chatterbox. I now know that for me, the chatterbox is a part of my ADHD. We didn't know back then. I was just really glad I found a friend who would listen to my chattering and she found a friend who would talk to her.
By the time 3rd grade came along, we were still in the same class. We were both happy about that. In 4th grade, against both our parents telling m the teachers that splitting us up would not get Kathy to speak more in class, they still decided to separate us. At that time, I was viewed as bossing her around. I did not. The results they wanted did not happen. Kathy said even less. It also proved that I did not boss her around. We were never in the same elementary school class together again. This broke my heart.
Junior high and high school we did have quite a few classes together through those years. We were in band together for most years, not all, just most. We were in band class and I sat behind her. She was third chair and I was fifth chair. Kathy would actually turn around to talk to and then I would get in trouble. She did this for a few days. My breaking point was a few days later in our music theory class. Our friend, Dave and Kathy were getting me and Dave in trouble for talking a few days before. I purposely sat all the way across the room from them to stop them getting me in trouble. Ha, when they started talking, I lost it. I picked up my books and stuff, I said it isn't me! It also isn't me in band class! It is Kathy. Then I burst into tears and left the classroom to go home. When I got home, I called my mom and told her if any one calls to say I left my 7th hour, well, I did. Mom and I talked about when she got home. I didn't really get in trouble for leaving school, I was just told not to do that again. The next day in band class, Kathy turned around to talk to me and she got caught by our teacher! The teacher was standing, but she had to sit down. She actually apologized to me. She also said I had a reputation of talking a lot. I rarely talked in any music classes. Rarely. In theory class, I sat, again across from Kathy and yes, she also got caught. Even though I was not a popular girl, there were a few kids in the class who told our teacher that it had been Kathy from the beginning of the year. That teacher also apologized and asked if I was sitting across from my best friend because of this. I said yes. The teacher told me I could go back to my original seat and she would not blame me for others talking. I moved back.
These are just a few of our adventures. There are so many more!
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